Soul Strength

“Only speak words that make souls stronger.” – Ann Voskamp & Holley Gerth

I have it taped to the cabinet just to the left of my stove, it’s been there for almost 2 years.  A quiet reminder to always speak words that love and wrap a person in grace.

Rather than the biting ones, the snarling ones that I was so used to speaking.


The kitchen seemed the perfect space for such a reminder, since it is there that a lot of our interaction as a family happens.  As I prepare meals, or wash up I am always drawn to the words.  They keep me and my sometime molten temper in check.

This morning, however, as I was making my breakfast, I caught another meaning, one meant just for me.  How the words that I speak to myself need to be ones of grace and redemption as well.


I never realized until this morning how the stain of my negative self-talk was impacting my day to day life.  How the mean and nasty off-handed remarks “Tonya, you’re so stupid,” or “Tonya how could you be so dumb.” Or, on my worst days?  “My word Tonya, you’re looking a little heavy today,” actually tear holes in my own soul.

It’s been a rough go for us this summer, financially, and I’m battling doubt and second guessing every decision I make, right down to the “Do I spend the 99 cents at Value Village for a small glass vase for my bathroom.”  I’m struggling with knowing that God has me right in the palm of His hand.

And in the middle of this struggle that’s when I feel like throwing up my hands and claiming defeat and that’s when all that negative talk blares like there’s a loud speaker right in my head.  It’s like a vicious circle.  Doubt.  Be nasty to yourself.  Doubt. Be nasty to yourself.

You get the picture right?


“Kind words are like honey — sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.” – Proverbs 16:24

Trust me when I tell you I sure could use some soul sweets!

One of the sweet friends who penned those words above once told me, in a reply to a comment:

“Tonya, you should only speak words to yourself that Christ would speak to you or that you would speak to your soul-sisters.”

Christ certainly doesn’t speak to me the way I sometimes speak to myself and I certainly don’t use those words with my beautiful friends.  So, why should I use them on myself?

I needed that reminder today.  I need that reminder every day.

I am called.  I am His.  I am Beloved.

And guess what?

You are called.  You are His.  You are Beloved.


“Only speak words that make (your) soul(s) stronger”

I would love to hear from you.  Do you often find yourself engaging in negative self-talk?  How do you help yourself remember that you are a daughter of the King?


1 Comment

  1. Mi Chelle

    This was perfect timing for my husband and myself.
    We have some big life changing things happening right now
    and sometimes it is so easy to beat yourself up over last wrong decisions.; which also make you doubt every single new choice or decision.
    Thank you and…
    Have a wonderful day,
    Mii Chelle

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