Behind the Scenes – Long Distance Besties

crystalstine.meIt’s Behind the Scenes Tuesday.  A day for stories, the ones that you think of after the picture has been taken.  It’s become one of my favourite weekly links up.  There is power in our stories and sometimes pictures, no matter how sharp the focus, don’t tell the whole beautiful message.  There’s lots of bravery over at Crystal Stine’s corner of the web.  Won’t you join us here?

This is me and my friend Kim.  She’s my Long Distance Bestie, my LDB.  She lives in Southern California and I live in Southwestern Ontario.  Almost an entire continent separates us and yet it’s like we’ve never been apart when we see each other – which unfortunately isn’t very often. Thank the good Lord for modern technology, social media and international text messaging – it sure makes it easier to stay in touch.

The last time I got to hug her neck was almost 18 months ago, which in my estimation is an eternity.  Kim gets me.  Like under my skin, knows my brain and can finish my sentences gets me.  Those kinds of friendships don’t come along very often.  And I have been blessed super blessed to have her in my life. 

What you can’t see in this picture is that it was taken while out to dinner on my my last night in California.  I had taken the solo trip in February of 2012, to visit Kim and what I didn’t know at the time and what you can’t see in this picture is how this trip would change my life.

I took the trip at a time when I just beginning to re-visit my faith and my relationship with God.  I was desparately trying to find my joy after living so long parched and thirsty and sunny California seemed to be the perfect place to take these new steps.

What you can’t see in this picture is the fearlessness with which I embraced everything about that experience.   I conquered LA traffic (and for this country girl that was some feat) and explored on my own.  On one of those days with Kim’s map in one hand and her car keys in the other I headed up past Malibu and drove down the Pacific Coast Highway.  The sunroof was open, Adele was cranked on the stereo and I belted out Rolling in the Deep as loud as I could with ocean sparkling beside me.  That simple experience opened the floodgate and began to soften the rough and cracked patches that come with living just to get by.

The other thing that you can’t see in this picture and I wrote about it here is how much Kim had an impact on shaping my joy.  How God used her to help me see things about myself that I just didn’t think existed anymore.  Things that I thought long buried under layers of motherhood and fear.  As I watched her move through her day as wife, mother and busy career woman I saw a single minded determination that allowed her to see past the crazy, the busy, the hectic and grasp every moment, unrestrained, uninhibited and with grace and poise.

What you can’t see in this picture, what’s behind our mega-watt smiles is that I would do anything for her, in a lay-my-life-down sort of way. When she texts me to say that life is pressing too close, or that she’s had a crappy day I want to sprout wings and fly non-stop just to wrap her in a hug and share a bottle of wine.

What you can’t see in this picture is how much I miss her and can’t wait to see her again. 

And in honour of the PCH and the best long distance friendship I thought it appropriate to leave you with a little Adele… 


  1. Kimmi is a keeper that’s for sure. So are you Tonya.


    • Thank you Virginia… it means a lot that you stop by and say hello here. She sure is a keeper… Next time you stop by the house I’ll try and be home!

  2. Oh, so thankful for friends… 🙂

    I have no desire ever to conquer the traffic of LA… not even for the sun of California, but hurray for yoU!!!

    Thanks for sharing your behind the scenes!

    • Julie, I do remember having one slight moment of panic as I got on the freeway and saw 12 lanes (that might be a slight exaggeration) of traffic open up before me… but I did it… and so glad I did.

  3. Oh my friend! I know you will not be surprised – but I wrote about meeting God along Hwy 101 today too – and about how I asked to be punched in the face while caught up in that LA rush hour! 😉 Kindred, indeed!

    • So glad that you did not get punched in that pretty face of yours!!! And how awesome is that, that both of us wrote about California.

  4. Aren’t those friends who just “get us” the best?! I’ve been blessed with several; most are long distance, but one is across the street…and that’s something I definitely don’t take for granted. 🙂 Love this sweet post and the picture of you two! Blessings on your day, friend! 🙂

    • Mel, they really are the best!! I can’t imagine life without her in it!!! So happy that you have found that kind of friendship too! {hugs}

  5. Amazing those friends that “get us” even when miles and time separate us! And what a blessing that she was able to shape your journey going forward. May you continue to bless each other and thank God for your friendship of grace.

    • Angie,

      Thank you so much for stopping by here!! I thank God everyday for the blessing of our friendship… He is so faithful providing exactly what I needed.

  6. What a blessing to have one of those friends that just get us. For years I prayed (even when I didn’t fully believe in prayer)for a friend to walk through life with. In His loving faithfulness He gave me two. I don’t know what I would do if there were many miles between us. Such a sweet post. I pray God continues to bless your friendship.

    • Amy – So glad that God answered your prayers and that you have two wonderful friends close by. Don’t you just love how He brings people in our lives when we need it the most!

  7. What a beautiful name your friend has! Everyone needs at least one friend who “gets” her when no words will do. And I’m soooo jealous of the PCH drive!

    • She does have a great name… doesn’t she!!! We’ll have to work on planning a road trip… could you imagine the two of us in LA – it would NEVER be the same!

  8. Oh, the beauty and blessings of those friendships. I didn’t grow my women friendships until later in life – too much drama, too much struggle, just too much. But now that they are blooming, they are so precious. Thank you for lifting the curtain here and sharing this one!

    • Rebekah… I too was much older before I grew friendships that would last… I am so grateful for the friendships with which God has blessed me.

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